Happiness is Overrated
Yes, “Happiness is Overrated”. Do you want to know why?
We are constantly searching for the ideal relationships, the ideal job, the ideal life… So, when we have conjured in our heads a picture of what these ideals look like, we constantly try to accommodate our fantasies and make them come true.
Do you know where this specific way of thinking and acting fails? We ultimately fail to recognize that accomplishments are not the only way to feel happy or fulfilled. It’s not about accomplishing everything you have set out to. It’s not about either being constantly happy and optimistic or always having positive thoughts and interactions.
It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to sometimes feel miserable, it’s okay not to be always fully productive and have days when you are not in your prime.
What is happiness supposed to mean anyway? We are not even biologically programmed to be always happy. We cry, we get nervous and angry and our bodies have special mechanisms to deal with negative emotions because we are naturally programmed to have them.
Do you know why else you shouldn’t always be happy? Because when you are always happy you can’t really strive to do better. Sometimes being always in a state of happiness can be against the process of self-improvement and evolving. What do I mean by this?
Have you ever feel so content that you laid back and said “Okay, now I am done. I have achieved what I was supposed to achieve”. Well, in that case, is that you relax and may even stop trying to do better because in your mind you have set a fixed limit for yourself. So, once you have reached that limit you might end up thinking “That’s it. I’ve done my best. I am happy now”.
But why restrict yourself, when in fact it is most likely that you can do more and better? The problem is that, as S. Stefan Karabacak says in his article Invisible Goals, “We, as human beings, tend to focus on the present and forget about the big picture”.
So what is the big picture? The big picture is not to always be happy, but to reflect on the sad, “imperfect” moments of your life and try to truly learn from them.